Let’s talk about the term "big backs" and how it’s casually thrown around, often making us feel less than. We’ve all been there—scrolling through Instagram, bombarded by perfect, sculpted bodies, and then we catch a glimpse of ourselves in the mirror, questioning why we don’t look like that. We start to feel like our worth is somehow tied to having that elusive "summer body." If you’ve been through pregnancy, gained some weight in a relationship, or simply lost yourself in the hustle of life, the pressure to snap back can be overwhelming.
But here’s the thing: You are not defined by your body’s current state. Whether you’re a size 2 or 22, you are enough, just as you are.
The Reality of Body Shaming
Body shaming isn’t just something we face from others—it’s something we do to ourselves. We pick apart every inch, every curve, every imperfection, holding ourselves to a standard that’s impossible to maintain. When we call ourselves "big backs" or criticize our bodies for not fitting into a certain mold, we’re reinforcing the very pressures that are tearing us down.
It’s easy to get lost in the idea that if we could just lose that extra weight, we’d be happier, more confident, more… something. But the truth is, our bodies are incredible, no matter what size or shape they are. They’ve carried us through life, maybe even carried a child, and they deserve to be celebrated, not shamed.
The Journey Back to You
If you’ve found yourself wishing to snap back to the woman you were before, I want to challenge you to shift your focus. Instead of thinking about getting your "old body" back, think about how you can nurture the body you have now.
Remember the joy of dressing up, of finding pieces that make you feel powerful and beautiful? It’s time to reignite that passion for fashion—not because you need to fit into a specific size, but because you deserve to feel amazing in your skin. That’s what I’m about at Ikonik Idoll—providing fashion that empowers you to embrace your body, every inch of it.
Empowering Ourselves and Each Other
This journey isn’t just about clothing or physical appearance. It’s about reclaiming our confidence and refusing to let societal pressures dictate how we feel about ourselves. The next time you find yourself being critical, remember that you are so much more than your body. You are a woman with experiences, strength, and beauty that goes far beyond the surface.
Let’s lift each other up and reject the idea that we need to change ourselves to be worthy of love, admiration, or even that cute summer dress. Wear it proudly, no matter where you are in your journey. Embrace every curve, every "imperfection," and know that you are enough, exactly as you are.
Together, we can change the narrative from one of shame to one of empowerment. And that, my beautiful sisters, is the true power of self-love.
From One Woman to Another
With love,
Kay, CEO of Ikonik Idoll
